Monday, September 2, 2013

Ex wife was a sociopath

madeye1 replied to your comment on 11 Signs You May Be Dating A Sociopath:
You wrote: Oops, I hope you got something out of my reply? In most situations, I think I would somehow warn the new "lover"!
1 week ago madeye1
Actually, I did get something out of your first reply. I've been telling my son she will meet somebody who will use her the way she's used all the other guys she's done this to. Your Bad Experience seems to have done so, that makes me feel justified in telling him that, haha! You can bet we will be keeping an eye on her to see who she zeros in on next and will act accordingly. Thanks Ron!
You wrote: Thanks, she left me in a lot of debt too. She was a terrific salesperson especially to men of course. She became a real estate person, and got a fine house next to mine to sale. I called her when some guy with fancy car came by very interested in it. I had let her put a sign up "For sale, by owner". So this guy purchased this house and lot for a large sum of money. I thought she would have at least given me finders fee, but no...that was 12 years ago when the boom was still going on, and I was shocked at the price I can get for my house now - If I knew then what I know now I would have gotten a contract signed. ah well, live and learn...
1 week ago coventryk
Real estate. Sounds about right. No gratitude if it means coughing up money or goods. For me it was the ex manipulating me into signing over all our music, on which we spent more than on anything except our house. During negotiations, he RELUCTANTLY agreed to audiotape about 10%of the collection. He wouldn't let me back into the house to see it so I could remember what I liked. Well, hope you are doing OK now. It's kind of like being run over with a Mack truck, isn't it? 
Yes! Thanks for your reply. My biggest problem is trying to please starting really young with Mom. I have learned that I need strong boundaries to take care of myself first. Trying to please leads to partners taking advantage of you! In my next relationship, I want a woman who is fully independent - self-sufficient or at least one who wants to be in a interdependent relationship - not a dependent or co-dependent one. Someone who is happy and peaceful within themselves already.  Peace, Love and happiness,  ron